"When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself"
Just a nice quote to ponder upon for the moment.
I happened to see this as I was browsing my friends' posts in Facebook.
I definitely agree with this.
Every flaw you see in others at some point reflects upon yourself. They way you look at things reveal so much of your personality. And how one treats others divulges his own self.
One's characteristics remain unknown and meaningless if he keeps it to himself. He needs to have a companion in order to know himself better. This could be a cause (or an effect since most of the time, people don't initiate to know themselves better, they are more preoccupied on some other things which they perceive as more vital to survival) of building a relationship with people. Through having a relationship, be it romantic or not, with somebody, the persons involved take part on the getting-to-know-oneself-better process.
When you start bringing lunch for your partner, or when you visit him when he's sick, when you exert much effort to make him feel surprised during his birthdays, that's when you realize how caring and thoughtful you are. When you try to patiently wait for him til he finishes his games before you sleep, whe you try to always forgive him whenever he commits mistakes, that's when you realize how giving and understanding you are. When you easily get irritated when he's late on your date/s, you realize that you value time so much. When you feel fragile and too emotional, you get to compose songs or write poems or sometimes you go on blogging, that's when you realize you're at some point good at playing with words. When you drink or being tempted to smoke or cause physical pain to yourself whenever you're hurt, you discover that you are not that good in handling such down moments. When you feel terribly jealous all the time, then you realize you're insecure. That you have so many things lacking in your life. That you lack confidence in your self. And that you lack faith on the relationship or on the partner himself. Then you'll trace back when you were young, you got yourself as the only creature who believes you're pretty; you got friends unworthy of trust; you suck on your past relationships; everything comes rushing. Well, probably that's it. But a breakup is definitely not a panacea.
It's important to make sure that you establish your individuality before entering a relationship. Never use a relationship to know who you really are, or else you'll end up more self-centered. That's what 'be prepared' means. Then, always keep in mind that communication means so much. It could make or break a relationship. Talk about everything. Share with the 'other' everything especially your opinion on various things but be careful not to impose or demand. If there's something bugging you, talking and reconciling issues with your partner is actually better that overthinking about things.
Nuff for this;)
Got lots of things to do>.<
Enjoy life! Have fun!:)
Just a nice quote to ponder upon for the moment.
I happened to see this as I was browsing my friends' posts in Facebook.
I definitely agree with this.
Every flaw you see in others at some point reflects upon yourself. They way you look at things reveal so much of your personality. And how one treats others divulges his own self.
One's characteristics remain unknown and meaningless if he keeps it to himself. He needs to have a companion in order to know himself better. This could be a cause (or an effect since most of the time, people don't initiate to know themselves better, they are more preoccupied on some other things which they perceive as more vital to survival) of building a relationship with people. Through having a relationship, be it romantic or not, with somebody, the persons involved take part on the getting-to-know-oneself-better process.
When you start bringing lunch for your partner, or when you visit him when he's sick, when you exert much effort to make him feel surprised during his birthdays, that's when you realize how caring and thoughtful you are. When you try to patiently wait for him til he finishes his games before you sleep, whe you try to always forgive him whenever he commits mistakes, that's when you realize how giving and understanding you are. When you easily get irritated when he's late on your date/s, you realize that you value time so much. When you feel fragile and too emotional, you get to compose songs or write poems or sometimes you go on blogging, that's when you realize you're at some point good at playing with words. When you drink or being tempted to smoke or cause physical pain to yourself whenever you're hurt, you discover that you are not that good in handling such down moments. When you feel terribly jealous all the time, then you realize you're insecure. That you have so many things lacking in your life. That you lack confidence in your self. And that you lack faith on the relationship or on the partner himself. Then you'll trace back when you were young, you got yourself as the only creature who believes you're pretty; you got friends unworthy of trust; you suck on your past relationships; everything comes rushing. Well, probably that's it. But a breakup is definitely not a panacea.
It's important to make sure that you establish your individuality before entering a relationship. Never use a relationship to know who you really are, or else you'll end up more self-centered. That's what 'be prepared' means. Then, always keep in mind that communication means so much. It could make or break a relationship. Talk about everything. Share with the 'other' everything especially your opinion on various things but be careful not to impose or demand. If there's something bugging you, talking and reconciling issues with your partner is actually better that overthinking about things.
Nuff for this;)
Got lots of things to do>.<
Enjoy life! Have fun!:)
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