Most of the time, I am guilty of just convincing myself that I have forgiven and forgotten things just to get back what used to be good although I really haven't, I can't and I just wouldn't. I am also guilty of being too eager to learn doing things which he loves even if it means being in contrary with who I used to be. I'm guilty of overcompensating.
Despite the hectic schedule, I found some extra time to finish reading Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches and caught myself in dire regret of being too much of a 'nice girl'. Through being too emotional, dependent, predictable, overcompensating (name it) I've lost the relationship and more importantly, myself, my own identity, my life. Overwhelmed of whatever it is that I have, that perfect relationship which I fantasized ever since, I became too unlovable and uninteresting. I would have never learned how terrible I was as a partner if not for the book. But, it's never too late :) Next time, I'll definitely be good.
Be that 'friend' he would always want to go out with, be that 'b-abe i-n t-otal c-ontrol of h-erself' he would always end up keeping, leave that nagger, too obsessed and irritatingly too malleable 'nice girl' outside of you.
To all the girls, keep in mind that overcompensation is a no-no! Don't be too infatuated on the thought of making your guy stay or even making him reciprocate everything that you do for him. Don't keep him at the center of your life expecting that he would do the same. Don't give too blindly, don't be too desperate. But be cautious not to over do it to the point of not caring at all. Being totally indifferent destroys the very purpose of having a relationship.
Valuing yourself more than anybody else is the key :) It's not enough that you leave 'a little' for yourself. You just deserve more and absolutely the best. :)
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